Thursday, April 24, 2014

April A To Z Challenge Day 21- U is for Unlearning and Relearning

I’m a person who is not really fond of changes. The monotony of the known and comfortable provides me security and a sense of belonging. In fact I like my life to be run on a schedule, you know, get up at the same time, follow the same pattern, go to office, come back home, do the same things and fall asleep. Even a slight change in my schedule used to put me in a disorderly state. Like a train being derailed. I used to struggle to get back to my humdrum monotonous life.

That is until I had a baby! With a baby, my scheduled and timetable-led life went out of the window.  For the first few months I had a tough time because I had to readjust to a lot of things in my life. My priorities were getting reshuffled and everything in my life was dependent on another human being. I had to sacrifice things that I thought were important to me. And things that I thought I just couldn’t live without had to be put on a back burner. It’s amazing how much a child teaches you.

And my daughter taught me the most important lesson in life. To readjust, to accept changes and move on, to restrain my need to be in control of my life always. She taught me to stop and breathe, to enjoy the little pleasures of life.

A Mom-Daughter Selfie :)

The past 2 years of my life has gone by in the blink of an eye but, so much in my life has changed. I had to learn new things, and the old things that I had absorbed in the 30 odd years of my life were unlearned in few months.

Yep, it's a mutual admiration society

I have now, wisely, accepted that changes are just an inevitable part and parcel of life. It’s ok if I don’t work out every day of the week, it’s ok to skip preparing dinner on some days (there’s always home delivery), it’s ok I don’t want to go to office on some days and I just want to spend time playing with my daughter, it’s ok if I don’t get time to read a book on all the days and it’s ok if I don’t get time to post on my blog.

Who is guiding whom? :)

Life is much bigger than that. I don’t have to be perfect all the time in all things. I don’t have to please everyone. I have learnt to just live in the moment and not worry about the future a lot. 


  1. hey prasanno.. loved dis one!! ur daughter is such a cutie pie <3 its a miracle how moms change themselves to suit their kid's needs :)

    1. Really I never thought before my baby that I be like this also :P

  2. Thanks for this Prasanna...You know I've been feeling very moody ever since I've been on LOP...But it's ok...It's ok to stop sometimes...

    U for Uncanny-Random Thoughts Naba

    1. Come June and I'll be jobless :) Between moments of panic I am having dreams of spending all my time reading and writing :P

  3. Haa the things childrean can teach us.....

  4. Learning and unlearning part of a post
    Each word reflects your love for daughter and how much u loved the change in routine even if it is challenging
    Enjoyed reading this prasanna
    God bless

  5. How much can children teach us!! True, learning, un-learning and re-learning is a cycle that helps us grow and if we enjoy this journey we are truly blessed. Your daughter is sooo cute! ♥