Friday, December 13, 2013

People-Love Them or Hate Them But Can't Avoid Them-Day 6 of Write Tribe Festival of Words




Today's Theme: People

“There are few people whom I really love, and still fewer of whom I think well. The more I see of the world, the more am I dissatisfied with it; and every day confirms my belief of the inconsistency of all human characters, and of the little dependence that can be placed on the appearance of merit or sense.”
-Jane Austen


I have a love-hate relationship with people. Yes, you read that right! I love to observe people but I hate interacting with them. When I was a child, I was a painfully shy girl, almost always sitting in the corner, in my own world. But what I did was observe people, watch how they react, watch them speak when their expressions belied something else. For example, when my aunt (my father’s sister) asked my mother’s opinion on her new sari, my mother would heap praises on how lovely she looked, whereas her expression suggested that she had never set her eyes on anything more heinous. From a small age I understood that people usually have a mask on their face to hide their real feelings and I didn’t understand why. That is until I grew up too!

I have had my share of experiences with some really obnoxious people and I generally tend to avoid them like plague. But what I really hate is blatant liars, on-the-face liars, people who know that you know that they are lying but will stick to their version of truth. Phew! Now, that sounded complex.

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I remember an incident from my childhood. I must have been in 5th Grade and I had a friend, Anju, who was pretty close to me. My uncle’s home was nearby to my school, so every afternoon I used to walk to my uncle’s home for lunch and my friend, Anju, whose home fell on the way, used to walk with me. Anju, had a younger sister, Anita, who used to tag along with us on some days. One day we were walking, Anju and I, laughing merrily at something that happened in school, when all of sudden Anita started crying.

We were confused and Anju tried placating her kid sister and asked her the reason why she was crying. Anita pointed to me and said that I had slapped her in school and I had physically abused her for no apparent reason. 

I was shocked beyond words. I had never met Anita in school so we both knew that she was lying but I was not able to convince Anju about her sister’s lying. Even to this day, I don’t know why Anita lied, maybe she was jealous of the friendship that I shared with her sister or maybe she just plain crazy. But that one small lie ruined a beautiful friendship between two girls.

I also hate human tendency to judge other people, to criticize unessentially, this need to pull down other people to pave path for their own success.  I hate back-stabbing people. I have only a few couple of friends but with these friends, I can tell them my darkest secrets and trust them to keep it to themselves. I don’t open up easily with people whom I have met only a few times. In fact I usually clam up in a crowd. Most of the days I wish to be alone at house with my solitude, but with a 2 year old daughter and her gang of friends this is close to impossible in our home.




12 comments:

  1. I t was so sad that a beautiful friendship was broken by a lie.
    when I was kid, i observed people but never interacted with people but now I can talk to total strangers.

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    1. Same here Kalpana. I'm better at making small talk now but it's not something I love :)

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  2. there will be people like her everywhere, not just as kids, but even as we grow up......

    and though I am quite an extrovert, and share my joys easily, I find it extremely difficult to share my worries with anyone, not even to people closest to me....

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    1. Yes, but as we grow up we meet people with hidden intentions and I guess people worse than Anita...

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  3. The person jealous about you are referred as people. If such people try to ruin your relationship,then you need to be very careful.

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  4. Oh my god! really she did that? Wonder what the reason was. Amazing and sad at the same time...

    Richa

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    1. Yes, till date I don't know why she did what she did!

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  5. Oh! Gosh! This is so sad that it ended a beautiful friendship. Why did she lie? Perhaps, the lacked attention at home and in someway, the parents are responsible..who knows!! I'm feeling so sad.

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    1. Maybe, or maybe she was just jealous of the bond shared between me and her sister. But till date I don't know the real reason :(

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  6. Very dangerous girl, I say. I wonder how many more relations she would have ruined.

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  7. I like to observe people too. And have lost faith in a few people because of a few lies one person said about me and a few others believed it without even clarifying it with me. I ts very tough to come to terms with. But that one incident showed me whom to trust and whom.not to. Hurt badly.

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